Jan. 19, 2005 Dear Readers,
I'm retraining myself as far as my family goes. In order to maintain a peaceful coexistence with them (and not run out the door screaming during family gatherings,) I'm trying not to give much weight to what comes out of my relatives' mouths. So this Christmas, when my uncle came in, looked at our beautiful tree, and said, "That has got to be the most sparsely decorated tree I've seen in my life!" my first thought was, "Oh, my God, there's something wrong with my tree!" and then, "Oh, my God, there's something wrong with my uncle!" He, along with others in my tribe, seems to think it's acceptable to say whatever pops into his head to relatives. At our family gatherings, you hear remarks like, "Your brother has gotten so fat! Let that be a lesson to the rest of you!" And, "Wow! Your hair has gotten so much grayer (or thinner, or nonexistent) since last time I saw you!" I never did tell my uncle the tinsel story, or why our tree looked so bare, but I'll tell you. The day the tree went up, lights and ornaments were put on, and then it was time for dinner. We left the open package of tinsel on the table next to a vase of flowers. Later, darling smallest child was too quiet, and upon investigation, I found the tinsel all pulled out of the package and snarled in a pile on the carpet with the vase of flowers dumped on top. Progress is progress, so even if it's messy three year old behavior, we love to see these stages our five year old developmentally delayed daughter is going through. A bare tree to him was a full heart to me, and the older/fatter/grayer I get, the wiser I am!
Annie
Please write to:
Annie, P.O. Box 1084, Eatonville,WA 98328
E-mail: letters_annie@hotmail.com
Past Ask Annies:
Jan. 19, 2005 Pay Less Attention to Relatives' Crude Remarks
Jan. 12, 2005 Fellow Employee Guy Pesters Her
Jan. 5, 2005 New Gung Ho Leader in Volunteer Group
Dec. 22, 2004 Guy She Helped A Lot To Move To Packwood Found Packwood Lady
Dec. 8, 2004 Wife Drinks Too Much At Parties
Dec. 1, 2004 Holiday Spirit: Proud of Her Country, Co-workers and Family
Nov. 10, 2004 Bearded Guy's Wife Won't Shave Legs
Nov. 3, 2004 Daughter Finds Father's Remarriage Difficult
Oct. 27, 2004 The Bravest People Are The Elderly, and More About Bringing Guest Home to Crude Family
Oct. 20, 2004 Another Bringing New Beau Home to Rude Family plus This Divisive Election
Oct. 13, 2004 Bringing New Beau Home to Rude Family
Oct. 6, 2004 Recipe a guy can make: Cinnamon Rolls
Sept. 29, 2004 Stop complaining and appreciate what we have.
Sept. 22, 2004 It's the long-married who need the household gifts.
Sept. 15, 2004 How Do I Be The Bride's Maid?
Sept. 8, 2004 Political Signs in Morton Jubilee Parade
Aug. 11, 2004 Adjusting to the loss of loved ones and appreciating the family we have.
Aug. 4, 2004 Mom Was Right About The Guy & Reply to a Critic Of Proud To Be An American
July 28, 2004 Go See and Enjoy Your Family
July 21, 2004 Readers Suggest Solutions to Doting Wife
July 14, 2004 Wife Dotes on Husband After Retirement
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June 30, 2004 Annie Column "Trivial?" plus More Supporting Parents
June 23, 2004 Repeat: Packwood Flea Marts
June 16, 2004 Doesn't Want to Marry Older Guy
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Apr. 21, 2004 Pushy people who keep telling us, "You should..."
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Mar. 24, 2004 Big Girl Wants to Avoid Brother's Fancy Wedding
Mar. 17, 2004 New Manager Getting Gifts from Subordinate?
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Mar. 3, 2004 Complaining about Boring Older Peoples' Talk
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Jan. 28, 2004 Bad Phone Manners
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Nov. 12, 2003 Husband Driven Nuts To Do Crafts By Wife
Nov. 5, 2003 Dreading Husband's Retirement
Oct. 29, 2003 Move back home from boyfriend's house?
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Oct. 15, 2003 Misunderstanding about School Workers' Kindness
Oct. 8, 2003 Prayer for Brown Sisters Killed and Change Schoolyear to Oct.1 to June 30
Oct. 1, 2003 Response About Non-tipping Lotto Winner
Sept. 24, 2003 Church-goers Inattentive
Sept. 17, 2003 Friend Sells My Stuff on Ebay
Sept. 10, 2003 Lottery Winner Didn't Tip Clerk
Sept. 3, 2003 Business Insults to Consumers
Aug. 27, 2003 Divison of Wedding Expense
Aug. 20, 2003 School Workers' Kindness & Men's Attractiveness
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Aug. 6, 2003 Annie's Husband's Accident at Work
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